When we’re new to adulthood, it doesn’t immediately occur to all of us that you’re almost always allowed to leave a situation, because growing up we’re forced to stay in situations until someone dismisses us and/or takes us home, or if we do leave on our own accord there’s someone waiting at home to say “we don’t quit in this family!” Boring party? You can leave. You don’t like the lecture? You can walk out. New doctor not working out? You can end the appointment, you don’t need to wait for them to dismiss you. Bad date? You can just go home. Leaving a situation prematurely might have consequences, but unless you’re under arrest or serving prison time, it’s pretty much always allowed.
nothing sexier than that picture with the italian players on top of eachother after the win and the english ones going through the 5 stages of grief in the back
Learn to articulate how you’re feeling without accusing anyone of having bad intentions. You can say “I’m afraid of being alone” without saying “you’re just going to leave me like everyone else.” You can say “I need some reassurance” without saying “you probably don’t love me anymore.” You can say “I’m afraid I’ve hurt your feelings and I’d like to talk it through” without saying “you don’t even like me anymore.” You can say “I want to spend more time with you” without saying “you’ve gotten tired of me.” You can say “I feel misunderstood” without saying “you always judge me.” Try not to let your emotions get the best of you. Have a conversation focused on finding solutions instead of escalating the conflict.
